Keep Making Mistakes↓
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Dear Wholly Living Fam, It's finally February!It is one month into the new year and I'm not sure about you but January felt LOOOOOOOONG!! I spent most of the month doing some hibernating -- resting, writing, walking, playing with my fam, and trying to stay warm (it was WAY too cold!) It was so great to take everything off my to-do list and just rest. It was just what I needed. February is often the time of year when I hear from my clients that their motivation and momentum for their new year's resolutions or commitments might be waning. The new activities they added (or attempted to add) to their routine aren't quite habits yet. They might be struggling to be consistent or feeling stressed that they may have overcommitted and now can't sustain their new activities in the reality of the chaos of everyday life and rhythms and needs for rest or downtime. Can you relate? Most of us have this idea in our head of who we want to be or how we want to be and we make our goals based on that ideal, not based on the reality of the requirements of our lives. We try to change what we believe are personal and serious flaws in ourselves. We try to make major changes instead of making small, seemingly insignificant changes that will eventually lead to bigger changes. But even with the small changes, we are going to make mistakes. Mistakes are not "proof" that you can't achieve your goal. Mistakes are the quickest way to learn in any change process; they are not proof that you are incapable of the goal you set out for. Whether you're picking up some new workout habits, quitting a habit you don't want anymore or increasing the frequency/intensity of a current habit, mistakes are part of achieving those goals. Mistakes are your brain's way of adapting to the change you're trying to make. If we are slow about moving through mistakes, we can learn about ourselves and the obstacles that are getting in our way, for this and other goals in our lives. So, keep making mistakes! See the change tip below for an exercise you can do today to problem solve for what your obstacles are and what you can learn from them. Managing Mama Overwhelm
Change Tip: Learn from your mistakes rather than quitGet a journal or your phone or a piece of paper and do this 5 minute exercise when you're stuck in a goal or you are making mistakes along the way.
Reply to this email and tell me about the goals you're working toward or where you might be stuck! And let yourself keep making mistakes...and learning from them!
January Highlights: It was "Brrrrr, cold!"We spent the month of January as a family getting through the freezing cold days and trying to make the best of it. My husband and I took turns sleeping in on the weekends and making warm soups, getting work done and making the most of all the days off school. We lost our cool plenty of times, but also laughed a lot and collected some fun memories. I hope January has treated you well. I hope the coming month is full of mistakes you learn from! with you and for you, Tiffani |
Founder of Wholly Living Coaching and Consulting, LLC. I help parents build joy, connection and healing through one-on-one parent and life coaching, online courses and social media content. I'm a mama, wife, friend, therapist and change strategist who has coached and supported hundreds of individuals, families and couples through changing patterns in their thinking, in their emotions and in their behavior around work, marriage and parenting relationships using trauma-informed and body based practices for healing and self compassion. IG: @tifwhollyliving
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